Sure, you may be friends with your parents. You may also SAY to people that you are friends with your parents. But, really, when you think about who your mom and dad are (granted they are still with us), as people and not as your parents, do you think you'd still be friends with them?

I'm not sure how things were in previous generations, but it seems like lately people have less than ever in common with their parents. That doesn't necessarily make for an un-friendly situation, but it is food for thought. The things we care about may seem different of course, but we haven't lived as long as our parents (in most cases) and we haven't had the same experiences they've had--the kind that change the very core of our beings. Things like having children of our own put us more on the same page with our parents every day, whether we realize it or not.

And perhaps that's what it is--can you be friends with someone with whom you have too much in common? Or does friendship come down to more than things in common versus not? Many people have said to me, I don't have to like my family--they're FAMILY. I've also heard that while you love your family, you may not particularly like them (anyone got that funny uncle everyone's always talking about?). Others feel that they have a strong bond with their parents that outshines that of the biological bond.

What about you? Would you be friends with your parents if they weren't related to you?

Barack Obama is upset because the Republicans and the media have cast aspersions on his wife's character, questioning her patriotism and calling her his "baby mama". He told one network that "I've said publicly before, and I'll say it again - I think families are off limits." He's also upset that his opponent, John McCain, hasn't spoken out against dragging wives through the mud.

John McCain, however, countered saying that not only has he spoken out against the practice, it's Obama that has not taken a stand. McCain spokesman Joe Pounder, referring to calls for Cindy McCain to release her taxes and questions about her husband's campaign use of her company's private jet, said that "Obama's silence speaks volumes, and it's unfortunate that he would single out others for a standard he himself has failed to live up to."

If you ask me, it seems that personal attacks calling someone unpatriotic are not quite the same as asking for transparency in campaign financing, although I will admit I'm not sure why Mrs. McCain's taxes are relevant. Still, in general, I would say that wives and families should be off-limits during an election -- we're not voting for Michelle Obama or Cindy McCain, after all.

So what do you think? Are families fair game or should they be left alone? Are they relevant to a candidate's qualifications for elected office or are they indicative of the candidate's character?

Dennis Quaid and his wife Kimberly have had a rough time lately in Los Angeles. In November, their newborn twins almost died after accidentally being overdosed with the anti-coagulant drug Heparin and in May, Quaid testified before a House committee about his experience. Thankfully, twins Thomas Boone and Zoe Grace are both doing fine now and Quaid and company are anxious to put the nightmare behind them.

Like many of us who face near-tragedy, Dennis and Kimberly have decided that what matters most in life is family and friends and the couple are making some changes. Quaid says that he and the family are quitting Los Angeles and returning to his hometown of Houston, Texas. "The train is going down the tracks!" he says. "We have a lot of family there and we have a really nice plot of land," he says. "We have 30 or 40 friends and family members within two miles of us. Its kind of a no-brainer."

The children's near-death experience may be in the past now, but it will never be forgotten. To help ensure that what happened to them doesn't happen to someone else, Dennis and Kimberly have started a foundation to help minimize the risk of human error in hospitals. The first step, says Quaid, is making use of barcode technology. "With a bar code, [a nurse] can scan the medicine and scan the bracelet of the patient. Scan her own tag and if there's a mistake, it will come up."

What happened to those babies was an unimaginable nightmare. I don't blame the Dennis and Kimberly one bit for wanting a fresh start and I especially admire their efforts to try to make something good come out of something so bad.

Female boxer and contender for the Dancing with the Stars trophy Laila Ali plans to honor her father, Muhammad Ali, in a very special way. The 30-year old mom-to-be plans on naming her child after the boxing champion.

Ali recently revealed the child will be a boy. His name will be Curtis Jr., after Curtis Conway, the baby's father, with Mohammad as the middle name. Ali also confirmed she'd like to have the baby at home with no medication.

Ali is due in three months and contends the hardest part of pregnancy is giving up her hardcore workouts. Perhaps having that baby at home with no meds will be enough of a workout for her! Good luck to you, Laila!

Mona Ackerman, contributor to Huffington Post and "shrink" as she calls herself, has a few choice things to say about breastfeeding. Ms. Ackerman is also a grandmother. Recently another grandmother wrote to Mona in dismay over her daughter-in-law's "incessant breastfeeding" of her nine-month-old grandchild.

The new grandmother couldn't understand why this was necessary all the time. The grandmother also wondered if the "marathon" breastfeeding wasn't taking away from the daughter-in-law's other priorities such as the household duties.

I'm sorry, but is this woman for real? What century does she think this is? The grandmother admitted to being perplexed and at least had the courage to ask if she was in the outer corners for feeling these things. I also agree it was a good thing to be able to admit such hesitations. Still, what business of it is hers whether or not her grandchild is breastfed? She had her children, and made her choices at that time based on social norms, the wisdom of the day, and what her doctor told her to do. A woman's choice to breastfeed or not is her own business, not anyone else's.

It's no secret that George W. Bush has had a tough time of it lately. His approval rating are approaching record lows, due in part to the Iraq War and current economic hard times combined with rising prices of ........pretty much everything.

However, over the weekend, Bush was able step out of the role of Commander in Chief and try on something a bit happier: Father of the Bride.

Jenna Bush, daughter of George and Laura Bush was married in a very elegant and low-key affair on Saturday. Henry Hager had proposed to the first daughter at sunrise on Cadillac Mountain in Acadia National Park in Maine and the two became husband and wife just before sunset on her family's ranch in Crawford, Texas.

"Our little girl Jenna married a really good guy, Henry Hager. The wedding was spectacular, all we could have hoped for," President Bush told reporters afterward. "The weather cooperated nicely and, just as the vows were exchanged, the sun set over our lake... We're mighty blessed."

Jenna is the 22nd child of a president to get married while her father was in office.

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Nearly everyone who has a mother with a working computer has received some unintentionally funny emails from her at one point or another. Whether it's an update on the health prognosis of someone don't know and have never met (your cousin's ex-husband's barber's neighbor who was recently diagnosed with cancer of the toe, for example) or the latest warnings on the dangers of toilet spiders, technology and moms can be a pretty funny mix.

Instead of just forwarding these e-mails to girlfriends to enjoy and/or commiserate over, Jessica Grose and Doree Shafrir launched Postcards from Yo Momma, a blog with the tagline: A repository of modern day maternal correspondence. The idea was so great and the letter so brilliant, they've even been offered a book contract. Love, Mom will be released in April 2009.

"We started it on a lark," says Grose. "We never thought people would get so excited." Some of my favorite entries:

There are many who believe that the marriage of Jessica Simpson and Nick Lachey was doomed the moment they let a camera crew into their home. During a time when most young couples are quietly and privately settling into their newly acquired domestic bliss, these two were starring in Newlyweds. The whole point of that show was to invade their privacy and it makes sense that the presence of cameras would create some strain on the relationship. In the end, the marriage failed and the couple sadly went their separate ways.

There is at least one person who doesn't see a connection between the failed marriage and the intrusion of the cameras: Jessica's dad, Joe Simpson. As Jessica's manager, Joe was the man responsible for making Newlyweds happen and sources say he's now seeing dollar signs when he looks at his younger daughter, Ashlee. Ashlee recently became engaged to Pete Wentz and rumor has it that she is with child. Kaching!

In my opinion, another reality show featuring a Simpson marriage sounds like a snooze-fest, but apparently Papa Joe thinks otherwise. "He knows that no one cared about Jessica before her reality show, and he's hoping a show for Ashlee will have the same effect," a source says.

By "same effect", I am sure he means popularity and ratings, not divorce. At any rate, a publicist for Ashlee and Pete says it isn't true and that the couple have no plans to star in a Newlyweds 2. But that same publicist says Ashlee isn't pregnant, so who knows.

A second-grader at the Royal Palm Exceptional School in Fort Myers, Florida has been charged with aggravated battery after a violent outburst in the classroom. It all started with a disagreement over crayons and ended with 8-year-old Deshawn Williams allegedly assaulting several classmates, throwing some chairs and punching his teacher in the face.

Deshawn admits that he lost his temper and went too far in throwing the chairs, but claims he only hit his teacher twice and not in the face. The police believe otherwise and say his teacher has the bruises on her face to prove it.

Apparently, this isn't new behavior for Deshawn. "He gets very upset and he loves to hit," said Deshawn's grandmother Dorothy Williams. She says he often has tantrums and gets physical, but never with adults.

I think it is painfully obvious that this child needs some professional help in dealing with his anger. Unfortunately, grandma thinks all he needs is a stronger teacher. "If he was overpowering her that much, I feel like she shouldn't be in that line of work," she says. "If she can't deal with him, put him in someone else's classroom. If it's a male, whatever, and let them restrain him."

Deshawn will be arraigned next month and a judge will decide when he can return to school.

Edna Parker has five grandchildren, 13 great-grandchildren and 13 great-great grandchildren. She has outlived both of her sons, and is one of 75 human beings in the world who have lived past the age of 110 years. Yesterday, she became the oldest living person in the world, celebrating her 115th birthday with a red rose and new white shoes.

Edna's extended family were at her side at her birthday party at her nursing home over the weekend, and Associated Press photos show fascinating photos: gnarled, age-pocked hands intertwined with the youth of her great-great-grandchild, a legacy she created. It must be an amazing thing, to sit in her shoes.

Medical experts say that longevity is in family genes, and the fact that Edna's two sisters lived to be 88 and 99 seem to support this. But doctors admit that they do not know exactly what allows some people to live to such ripe age, but note that it is a combination of genes and environment - as well as attitude.

Notably: the very old "seem to manage their stress better than the rest of us." I'm going to try to remember that: I would rather like to meet my son's grandchildren, too.

Happy Birthday, Edna -- may you see several more!

"I'm pregnant."

There are few other phrases in the English language that create such a whirlwind of feelings -- joy, fear, elation, excitement, anxiety, worry. Sharing those words with loved ones, especially your partner, is a moment you'll remember the rest of your life.

My first pregnancy was hard won, so that was news that was especially fun to share. I remember my mom staring at me hard; I think she was trying to figure out if she'd really heard what she thought she'd heard. It's so much fun to have a thrilling secret and then to share it with the people you love.

If you're the creative type, Babies Online has 10 fun ways to share your pregnancy news with your loved ones. You could stick a sonogram in a stack of photos before you share them, wrap up a photo frame with a note inside that has your due date on it, or give your parents a book especially for grandparents.

Did you do something creative when you shared your pregnancy news?

Do you bribe your kids? Do you think you should? Do you think every time you do it that someone up there is keeping track of your parenting decisions but that you had no choice? If you do, I am sure you are not alone.

My son is not old enough to need to be bribed, yet. At least I don't think he is. I gave him what amounts to basically an entire English muffin on the car ride home yesterday to keep him from advising me, loudly, once again, that he does NOT prefer to be in his car seat any longer. He is one.

Parents of children of all ages seem to bribe them. Perhaps not all the time, but when the occasion calls for it. Some do it just to get the kid to do something they don't want to have to work hard to get them to do. Cash works well for that. So does candy.

When I was a kid I fondly remember being about eight years old and preparing to spend the night with my grandparents, who lived about three hours away in the country. My mom, not wanting to part with me at such a young age when it came down to it--even though she'd thought she would be fine with it and had driven me down there one Friday night to stay alone with them Saturday night--secretly offered me $25 to come home with her the next day instead of staying.

I proudly announced to my grandparents the next day that I'd thought about it and that I would take the $25. That bribery sort of backfired on my mother, but it is a funny story we tell to this day.

Some parents turn to bribery when they see no other solution. It worked for my mother--at least that one time. Some parents consider giving anything in return for good grades or doing chores bribery; others see it as a way to get good results while keeping everyone happy and teaching the kid not only about good grades and taking part in the family responsibilities, but business too.

Whether or not we bribe doesn't seem to be in question. Rather, what we bribe with and how effective it is seems to be the hot topic of late. So what do you bribe your kid with? Does it change depending on the seriousness of the situation? Does it change depending on the week or does the same thing always work? Sometimes a little creativity is called for.

Daniel Madariaga of www.kidsizebribes.com offers a bad of goodies that parents can choose from depending on the severity of the situation. Others resort to a favorite standby: cold, hard cash. Perhaps that isn't such a creative measure but it certainly seems to work. It did for me when I was faced with the choice of spending the night or getting what, to me, at the time, amounted to millions.

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My best friend and I had a phone conversation yesterday that became heated and exuberant, with both of us spitting unintentionally into our handsets, vehement in our conviction on the topic at hand. The important topic? Kid's haircuts: who decides?

We were talking about Mary's cousin Cathy. Cathy's son, 5, had gorgeous, silken blond locks. His Mom liked to keep his hair longer, relishing his pure curls. Mary admitted that Cathy's son sometimes looked like a little girl, with his huge blue eyes and long locks , but longer hair for boys has been a trend for the last year or so; the boy's hair wasn't so long that he was raising any eyebrows in the grocery store lineup. Just curls around the collar.

"But that long hair used to make Cathy's Mom so mad,"Mary told me,"And she said it wasn't fair to Joe. And so last weekend when Cathy dropped Joe off for an hour, her Mom cut off all his hair."
"No!"
"Yes! Cathy was livid. Livid."

You know, I know it's just hair. There are larger things warranting parental indignation: overcrowding in classrooms, bullying, health care, all of that. But there's just something about a child's first haircut, about the morphing of silken baby hair into tougher, more robust little-kid locks. I think that any child's hair is the responsibility and right of the Mother. Even if Cathy's sons hair had been flowing down his back, I don't think his Grandma had any right to cut it. Mary agreed with me, but she's my best friend, so we often think alike.

Though I keep my own son's hair relatively short (a shaggy sort of bowl cut), my Mom wouldn't ever cut it without asking me. I just think it's one of those rare parental benefits: control over someone else's hair, albeit only briefly.

(For those looking for some tips on choosing the best haircut for your kid, here's a handy list.)

A recent survey of sandwich generation caregivers suggests that children are helping to care for grandparents or other older adults in their lives who have Alzheimer's disease. About three out of five caregivers said their children aged 8 to 21 are involved in caring for a loved one with Alzheimer's disease. Children and teens may assist with various responsibilities, including feeding, dressing, providing transportation, and attending doctor's visits.

The survey, conducted by the Alzheimer's Foundation of America (AFA), asked over 500 adult caregivers about their roles. Of the caregivers who feel they do a good job balancing the care of their loved ones with Alzheimer's disease and children under 21, more than one-third cited support from children as a contributor to their success.

The level of involvement in caregiving depends, of course, on the age of the child. The vast majority of pre-teens and teenagers visit and entertain a loved one with Alzheimer's disease. About a quarter of teens assisted with feeding and dressing, while older teens and young adults took on additional responsibilities: of those children aged 18-21, 42% assist with transporting and one-third help with doctor's appointments.

AFA's president and CEO, Eric J. Hall, remarks, "It is clear that caregiving is a multigenerational concern. Young adults and even teens and pre-teens are being impacted in life changing ways by their caregiving responsibilities." In response to the growing number of teen caregivers, the organization has increased its outreach to that population. Their website provides resources for teens, including information about local support groups and a contest for an annual $5000 college scholarship for Alzheimer's awareness.

While this survey focused on those families coping with Alzheimer's disease, I think the phenomenon of children and teens providing care is growing, regardless of the health concerns involved. The opportunity to care for older adults provides a unique opportunity for children to both give and receive the gifts (and better understand the challenges) that come with the caregiving role.

Do you consider yourself a "sandwich caregiver," caring for both children and aging parents? If so, how do your kids participate in the care?

I know there are a lot of people who don't think so, but if you can get past all the politics, Hillary Clinton is, in fact, a human being. She's even a mother to Chelsea Clinton who, by all accounts, has turned out quite well, despite growing up as a presidential teenager. And, like many mothers, is apparently looking forward to grandchildren.

When Chelsea introduced her mother at a recent fundraising event -- she has been campaigning on her mother's behalf -- she said that Hillary Clinton would be "the president that we need not only for us and our generation but for your children and the grandchildren that I know my mother wants to have." Hmmm... Do you think someone has been dropping hints?

According to Reuters, the elder Clinton "beamed and nodded when she heard those words." If Hillary doesn't become president, perhaps she'll be get to be a grandparent instead.